Tag: Be-Do-Have

EXCELLENCE & PERFECTION

“Demanding perfection assumes some external standard and definition of perfection. Such a mentality, combined with ourselves and the world not conforming to this standard, is the source of a variety of distressing emotional and cognitive states. A consciousness of striving for excellence perceives perfection in the process of life itself as it unfolds and manifests, without needing to adhere to some externally defined conception of perfection. Striving for excellence is consistent with giving fully, be-do-have, and all the strategies for living. In such a consciousness we naturally support and challenge ourselves and others to ever-higher and deeper levels of character and performance.”

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BE-DO-HAVE REVISTED

Be-Do-Have consciousness is joyful, contented and powerful from the start. Living these qualities, I naturally do the things that joyful, contented and powerful people do—with the result that I have things that joyful, contented and powerful people have. Being compassionate, loving and confident, I naturally act in ways that compassionate, loving and confident people act—and thus I have what compassionate, loving and confident people have. The salient point about Be-Do-Have is not that it culminates in have, but that it originates in be.

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BE-DO-HAVE

“Certainly a fulfilled life includes having comforts and enjoyable things, and doing things that give us pleasure. Yet without being rooted in a life of meaning founded in and emanating from our spiritual being, possessions and activity are hollow, devoid of significance, like a string of zeros. Living from the inside outwards, from our spiritual core, is the “1” that gives value to the line of zeros.”
David B. Wolf – Relationships That Work

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QUESTIONS ABOUT QUESTIONS

Tim Francis inquires: Something that I struggle with at this time is really asking questions that aren’t substantially leading. For example, asking a question like “What are the disadvantages of living in have-do-be?” implies that there are disadvantages to “have-do-be.” Dr. David Wolf: Sometimes an effective, powerful question might contain language that could be perceived […]

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ROADBLOCKS TO EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

Sattvic communication involves understanding things rightly as preliminary to response. In sattvic listening we genuinely focus on the other person. In this mode of illuminated, compassionate non-attachment, we are alert and attentive to the other person, without motive to coerce or manipulate. A roadblock does not necessarily mean that the responder lacks love or caring. Mastering sattvic communication skills offers us a powerful way to communicate our caring, concern and affection.

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