Posts Tagged ‘relationships’
ALWAYS IN RELATIONSHIP
”I’ve met people who tell me that they’re taking a break from all relationships or will never be in another one because they find them too painful. The truth is that we’re always in a relationship with someone or something. Even if we live on a mountaintop and never see another human, we must still interact with that mountain and ourselves. In those interactions, we’ll be shown the true reflection of our core beliefs. The reason? Our mirrors in the world never stop – they’re always working. There’s no escape! And the mirrors never lie.”
Gregg Braden, The Divine Matrix
RESPONDING TO COMPLEXITY WITH SIMPLICITY
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Hear Dr. David Wolf engage in live transformational coaching with a caller. Learn about the interplay and connection between conscious management of the influence of association, and standing 100% responsible for your experience of life and relationships. Listen to this Satvatove Radio Hour and get grounded insight into effectively handling your relationship challenges, through transforming conflict into closeness, while simultaneously discovering a spiritually-based philosophical foundation for sublime joy in personal relations.
ATTITUDE OF DISCOVERY
“Approaching relationships with an attitude of discovery and deep listening, means that diverse viewpoints enrich relations, rather than divide them.”
David B Wolf – Relationships That Work
EXPRESSING LOVE AND CARE
“To know how to effectively listen and convey understanding is a key element in expressing love and care.”
David B Wolf – Relationships That Work
LIVING A LIFE YOU LOVE
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In this remarkable interactive conversation hear about the vital importance of knowing who you are, and what you really want. When we live from a place of seeking approval, and trying to look good, “. . . even if we get some affection, approval, acceptance, we’re not satisfied…because it’s not us; we’re not putting ourselves out there . . . ”
On the other hand, when ” . . . we’re committed to living authentic lives, … then whatever comes my way, I know some people will love me, really respect me, appreciate what I’m doing, and some won’t, and that’s okay….I’ll feel satisfied with myself. I’m not living life to look good anymore. When we’re living a life we love, is that attractive, or what?….whereas if I hide out, and live a life that I think will look good, some people will approve of it, and some will criticize anyway . . .”
RELATIONSHIPS THAT WORK RADIO SHOW- August 18
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Hear how dedication to self-realization forms the basis for fulfilling relationships. In this episode of the Relationships That Work Radio Hour Dr. David Wolf explains the foundations for vibrant and growing relations. All this is integrated with interactive coaching on life-enriching principles such as clear intention, consciousness in the result, and the art and science of being 100% responsible for our experience of self, life and relationships.
LIGHT OF AWARENESS
” What is happening externally is a reflection of what is happening internally. Shining the light of awareness on what is going on inside uncovers creative potential that has been locked away.”
David B. Wolf – Relationships That Work
EXPECTATIONS & JUDGEMENT
Excerpt From A Coaching Letter Written By David B Wolf
It sounds to me like you’re judging yourself, harshly, for the relationship you have with your mother. I suggest that comparing it to what you term a “normal” relationship may not be particularly productive, or healthy. Perhaps a helpful starting point will be to accept your relationship with your mother for what it is, without judging it, without putting expectations on it. Such expectations could be a sort of premeditated resentment, setting yourself up for disappointment. I know this is an emotional issue for you. You have a lot of hurt and frustration connected with your relationship with your mother. If we were to examine things we’d likely find that your relationship with your mother is more open and honest than some, probably quite many, mother-child relationships, and less open and honest than others. That’s not right or wrong or good or bad, it’s just a fact that may be valuable to recognize and even embrace. Also, it’s likely not true that everyone else has an open and totally honest relationship with their mother. I believe that you will find it beneficial to suspend comparisions, with others and with your own expectations. From that starting point, you will begin to empower yourself to create the relationship you desire, without feeling bound to “have to have” any sort of relationship that is imposed from outside, or from your own past belief systems, which may be limiting you in this regard. My relationship with my mother is open and honest to some degree. It could be more so.
LIVING VS SURVIVING
“There is a distinction between living and surviving. Spiritually based personal growth entails a commitment to living, rather than mere surviving. Surviving is reactive.”
David B Wolf, Relationships That Work
CLEAR INTENTION
Excerpt From A Coaching Letter Written By David B Wolf
“Clear intention” intrinsically means that we don’t know how the result will manifest. We may have a plan A, and a plan B. Even if all our plans fall through and don’t work, still we are clear that the result will occur. You say it very nicely- “Between effort and result there is a space.” There is no inherent connection. It is a mystic process, in the sense that the Supreme Mystic is the personal mechanism to fulfill clear intention. As described in Bhagavad-gita, causes for results include the senses, the endeavor, the doer, the place, and ultimately the Supersoul. Clear intention is a way of being that honors that divine space between action and result.
Clear intention, placing consciousness in results, and commitment, are ways of being. My understanding is that they are ways of being consistent with our spiritual nature. If we are committed to a result, and the outcome doesn’t manifest as we had hoped, this is an opportunity to look at ourselves, to examine what was in the way of my intention manifesting the results I desired, what is it about my consciousness such that the result is what it is, instead of something different and more satisfying. I know that you are taking this introspective track in your life, as evidenced in your letter, “obviously I need to look at myself.” So, whatever the results of our endeavors and intentions, it is healthy to look at ourselves to learn, improve and refine our character and efforts.
That said, even if we are completely situated in spiritual principles, fully fixed in clear intention, that doesn’t guarantee a result. I offer that that does maximize the possibility that the intended outcome will occur. Empathy is a way of being. Living in empathy maximizes opportunities for sweet, connected and satisfying relationships. Does it guarantee it? No. Assertiveness is a way of being, an integral element of our integrity. It doesn’t guarantee successful external results, though being assertive will very frequently be more effective than aggressiveness or excessive passivity. Stretch, growth, win/win, “on contract”, accountability, etc. – these are ways of being that facilitate a life of fulfillment, excellence and extraordinary results.
These ways of being are part of our integrity. Even in those circumstances when such ways of being don’t produce the external results we desire, internally we are in integrity, and that in itself is success, perhaps the greatest success.
